by Tameka Braverman
5 Ways To Cope With The Holiday Blues
This time of the year can be extremely difficult for some people. Being single makes it even harder. For me being by myself is easy for most of the year. Christmas time, however makes me realize just how alone I am. I remember that I have no one to snuggle up with at the end of the day. The Holiday Blues don’t have to ruin your holiday season. There are many things you can do to help you cope with Holiday Blues during this season. How do I deal with being sad and single? Well, I don’t believe in avoidance. I try to face things head on. This is no different.
I know the past and all the memories can give you a warm fuzzy feeling. It’s easy to get caught up there with so many memory triggers during the Holiday season. Lolling on the past is a temporary euphoric feeling. When that though is over you are right back where you started. Maybe even worse. Leave the past in the past, and come on back to the present.
Stop Thinking of Yourself
You are feeling pity for yourself because you are only thinking of you. Do you have any idea how many other people are also alone right now? Get out there and keep someone company. Go volunteer at a local shelter or food bank. There are so many charities that need your time. Visit a nursing home and spend time with someone who genuinely needs you. Yep that right they need you. Spend time with some of your family and friends. Plan a party or event. Trust me, that will take up plenty of your time and energy.
If you can afford to, go to a spa. Get up and go. Have a facial or massage. Get out to the salon and get your hair done. Don’t forget to make an appointment. You don’t want your relaxing day to be spent waiting as a walk in. If you can’t afford to splurge on a spa day do a DIY at home. Try a nice aromatic scrub or a foot bath. You could try doing Yoga. Maybe a simple warm beverage right before bed will help you relax a little. Put down the electronics and create a relaxing bedtime ritual. Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you.
Pick up a cute little journal and start writing. Express your thoughts, feelings, wants and desires all on paper. Make list: a to do list, a don’t do list, a what I want in a relationship list. Who knows, your writing may lead you somewhere later. Write about your plan of attack for the Holiday Blues.
Get out of the House
Do something you normally wouldn’t do. That will help take away the Holiday Blues. Take a dance class. Learn to meditate. Start cooking. Whatever it is you choose to do just get out of the house. Go for a walk. There are many places in your hometown that provide a great scenic walk. Go to a tree lighting or holiday event. Offer to babysit (human or fur babies) so another couple can enjoy a night out. Be genuinely happy for them, no resentment. Trust me seeing other people happy will make you happy.
Whatever you plan to help you through the holidays remember not to over plan. You don’t want to create stress with your relaxing activities. Stay positive you won’t be alone forever. You may even meet someone while you’re out and about.